The first step is to explain why you are concerned for your friend. Why are you doing this? Why are you faced with the uncomfortable situation of a confrontation? The answer is simple: because you love your friend. You genuinely care about this person. You’re not here to accuse or embarrass, but to help. Remind yourself of this when you get nervous or frustrated, and most importantly, tell your loved one up front how much you care. Start the conversation by telling your friend how much he means to you, how much you’ve missed him, or what you appreciate most about him. Confrontation is not easy because the truth can hurt. It takes courage to do the right thing, but it takes love to present it in the right way. Presenting the truth in love combines these two concepts and lets you help without offending.