src/transformers/modeling_utils.py/PreTrainedModel/_tie_encoder_decoder_weights
class PreTrainedModel:    def _tie_encoder_decoder_weights(encoder: nn.Module, decoder: nn.Module, base_model_prefix: str):
        uninitialized_encoder_weights: List[str] = []
        if decoder.__class__ != encoder.__class__:
            logger.info(
                f"{decoder.__class__} and {encoder.__class__} are not equal. In this case make sure that all encoder weights are correctly initialized."
            )

        def tie_encoder_to_decoder_recursively(
            decoder_pointer: nn.Module,
            encoder_pointer: nn.Module,
            module_name: str,
            uninitialized_encoder_weights: List[str],
            depth=0,
        ):
            assert isinstance(decoder_pointer, nn.Module) and isinstance(
                encoder_pointer, nn.Module
            ), f"{decoder_pointer} and {encoder_pointer} have to be of type nn.Module"
            if hasattr(decoder_pointer, "weight"):
                assert hasattr(encoder_pointer, "weight")
                encoder_pointer.weight = decoder_pointer.weight
                if hasattr(decoder_pointer, "bias"):
                    assert hasattr(encoder_pointer, "bias")
                    encoder_pointer.bias = decoder_pointer.bias
                return

            encoder_modules = encoder_pointer._modules
            decoder_modules = decoder_pointer._modules
            if len(decoder_modules) > 0:
                assert (
                    len(encoder_modules) > 0
                ), f"Encoder module {encoder_pointer} does not match decoder module {decoder_pointer}"

                all_encoder_weights = set([module_name + "/" + sub_name for sub_name in encoder_modules.keys()])
                encoder_layer_pos = 0
                for name, module in decoder_modules.items():
                    if name.isdigit():
                        encoder_name = str(int(name) + encoder_layer_pos)
                        decoder_name = name
                        if not isinstance(decoder_modules[decoder_name], type(encoder_modules[encoder_name])) and len(
                            encoder_modules
                        ) != len(decoder_modules):
                            # this can happen if the name corresponds to the position in a list module list of layers
                            # in this case the decoder has added a cross-attention that the encoder does not have
                            # thus skip this step and subtract one layer pos from encoder
                            encoder_layer_pos -= 1
                            continue
                    elif name not in encoder_modules:
                        continue
                    elif depth > 500:
                        raise ValueError(
                            "Max depth of recursive function `tie_encoder_to_decoder` reached. It seems that there is a circular dependency between two or more `nn.Modules` of your model."
                        )
                    else:
                        decoder_name = encoder_name = name
                    tie_encoder_to_decoder_recursively(
                        decoder_modules[decoder_name],
                        encoder_modules[encoder_name],
                        module_name + "/" + name,
                        uninitialized_encoder_weights,
                        depth=depth + 1,
                    )
                    all_encoder_weights.remove(module_name + "/" + encoder_name)

                uninitialized_encoder_weights += list(all_encoder_weights)

        # tie weights recursively
        tie_encoder_to_decoder_recursively(decoder, encoder, base_model_prefix, uninitialized_encoder_weights)
        if len(uninitialized_encoder_weights) > 0:
            logger.warning(
                f"The following encoder weights were not tied to the decoder {uninitialized_encoder_weights}"
            )